Mel Rymill recently posted a picture of herself on her facebook page in her bra and underwear to show that having a strong body that works is more important to her than trying to fit in to any kind of ‘postpartum’ body ideal. Mel posted the picture to her facebook page complete with a statement about what prompted her to post the #badassundies selfie. She wrote;
So I had my first session with a PT today and the first thing she said to me was “Obviously you want to get back to your pre-baby weight”. It wasn’t a question, it was a statement.
And it pissed. Me. Off.
I corrected her nicely by simply saying “my goal is to regain my core strength and endurance…I’m not worried by how my body looks, only how it functions…it can be pretty badass”.
But it got me thinking. Post pregnant women are told they look good if they return to their pre-baby body quickly leading to the assumption that they look bad if the keep the extra weight. Skinny people are envied for their lack of fat or shamed for apparently starving themselves. Voluptuous women are either labelled fat and shamed or they’re labelled brave for being comfortable in their own skin. There is always pressure.
No one is comfortable in their own skin 100% of the time. Constantly labelling people and piling expectations associated with these labels on them is harmful to everyone…including those doing the labelling.
What we should be worrying about is if people are ok, not what they look like.