When you become a parent for the first time it doesn’t seem to matter how prepared you are, the work can be overwhelming. We all understand the basics of caring for a newborn and we know that healing from childbirth will take some time. But we often forget to factor in the huge impact sleep deprivation can have. There is not really a time in life where that deprivation happens and you are at the mercy of someone else. That’s why having help from a partner and if needed, asking for help from friends, can make a big difference in happiness during those struggling few months.
Being in a partnership can make raising and caring for a baby a little easier. In theory, you have someone to carry the load with. You can tag-team who is going to catch up on a little sleep and who is going to take care of the baby. You have someone to split the home responsibilities with — who will remember to pay this bill or that this week you really need to clean that bathroom. It’s a big help to have someone on your side, feeling like you’re in the whole craziness of parenting together. It’s totally not needed — single parents rock this stuff everyday – but there is no denying that that partnership helps.
Well, it helps until it doesn’t. Because despite the perfect ideals of what the breakup of responsibilities should look like between two parents, it doesn’t always happen that way.