Should You Let a Friendship Go?
By Catherine Ryan
Should you let a friendship go? You thought your close friend would always be there for you. So what do you do when she suddenly stops returning calls or arranging get-togethers?
“Life is full of big transitions — a new job, getting married, having kids — so as heartbreaking as it can be, it should be no surprise that some of your friendships will shift over time,” says Liz Pryor, author of What Did I Do Wrong? When Women Don’t Tell Each Other the Friendship Is Over.
Here’s how to hold onto a changing relationship — and how to know when to let it go.
Is a long-distance friend becoming more distant? Before you start feeling resentful, reach out to her, says Pryor. Take a non-confrontational approach, such as, “I really cherish our friendship, and I want to stay close with you. Are you on board?” That may prompt her to make more of an effort to call and visit. If not, send an email explaining that you can’t keep putting yourself out there if she doesn’t reciprocate. Still no response? Move on, knowing you’ve done your best.
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