If your family isn’t religious, then tell your child that while death is difficult, it’s part of the cycle of life — just like birth. Recall with him happy memories of your loved one, and tell him that even though Grandma is no longer with us, those memories will always live on. Assure him that it’s okay to talk about the family member, and encourage him to come to you with any questions he has. You should also let your child know how you are coping with the loss. This modeling is extremely helpful for children, especially when they are unsure how to process and respond to the loss.
With an open dialogue and time to adjust and heal, your child will likely come to a healthy understanding about these difficult subjects. If, however, you notice lasting changes to his “baseline behavior” after a few weeks (loss of interest in friends or activities, listlessness or a drop in grades), then consider getting an evaluation from a trained professional.