Are You Addicted to Being “Too Busy”?
By Cynthia Hanson
Are you addicted to being “too busy” Are you crazy-busy? Of course! Who isn’t? These days, having a crammed work, kids and activities schedule has almost become a status symbol. Why, just look at all the women who post Facebook updates of everything they’ve accomplished during the day!
But being super-busy isn’t always a sign of a fulfilling life, according to Dr. Jaime Kulaga, who holds a doctorate in mental health counseling, and is the author of Type ‘S’uperWoman — Finding the Work-Life Balance: A Self-Searching Book for Women. It actually can become a bad habit — and a stressful sense that you need to stay busy in order to be a good wife, mom or worker.
Where does this pressure come from? Fear! “Fear is false evidence appearing real,” says Kulaga. “It can be the fear of guilt, such as, ‘I have to write long notes in the Christmas cards I send to 45 friends because I haven’t talked to them in so long.’ Or it can be fear of loss, such as, ‘I have to respond to a client’s email at 11 p.m. when I’d rather be reading a book because if I don’t, she might not give me a referral.’”
Here’s how to rid yourself of that fear and kick the busy addiction.
Ban the “Musts”